Jan 13, How to destroy a marriage
If you attend 5 Point you have heard me say several times that the year 2010 is a year of action for me and our church. No more talking about it, actually doing it. First thing for me was to get below 280. In order to do that I've been eating around 700 calories a day and working out. I know that sounds crazy, but until I'm below 280 I'm doing whatever it takes.
I've really been praying for God to help me help people. I never want my busy schedule to blind me to those who are hurting around me. While working out this morning I asked a guy how married life was going. His response, "it sucks." I had a choice to make, say I'm sorry or stop what I was doing and try to help someone who definitely wanted to talk.
After a long and hard conversation I am 110% convinced that Satan is attacking Christian marriages full force. Since we are in the middle of Ugly Truth I want to talk about 10 ways to destroy a marriage.
1. Have an affair
My heart aches every time I hear about another marriage falling to due to an affair. We'll be discussing sex the last week during this series. Let me be real brief and to the point here. If men would try as hard to get into their wives pants as they do the women they are chasing, we wouldn't have so many affairs. Husbands, chase your wife, date your wife, romance your wife and see what happens.
But, in saying that ladies, you have a role also. I love it when I hear women tell me, "my husband has no reason to ever be satisfied sexually somewhere else." WOW
2. Think about another woman or man. Fantasize about other women or man.
Refer back to number one instructions.
3. Prefer to have orgasms instead of God's blessings.
Yes I said it. I am so tired of pastors skirting around the subject of sex. And orgasms happen to play a large part in sex. As men of God, we must make the decision as to who we are trying to please; God or self.
4. Continually put your needs before those of your wife and children.
What I've come to find out through counseling and personal experience, when you begin meeting the needs of your family first, your needs will be met also. Men, as the leader of the home it is our job to meet the needs of our family, not the other way around.
5. Meeting with the opposite sex alone.
Under no circumstance should this ever happen. "We're just friends." Yeah Yeah Yeah Let me repeat myself, under no circumstances should we ever meet with someone of the opposite sex alone. You are doing nothing but opening a door that needs to remained shut and locked.
5 more tomorrow
If you have some suggestions on how to destroy a marriage, let me know.
I've really been praying for God to help me help people. I never want my busy schedule to blind me to those who are hurting around me. While working out this morning I asked a guy how married life was going. His response, "it sucks." I had a choice to make, say I'm sorry or stop what I was doing and try to help someone who definitely wanted to talk.
After a long and hard conversation I am 110% convinced that Satan is attacking Christian marriages full force. Since we are in the middle of Ugly Truth I want to talk about 10 ways to destroy a marriage.
1. Have an affair
My heart aches every time I hear about another marriage falling to due to an affair. We'll be discussing sex the last week during this series. Let me be real brief and to the point here. If men would try as hard to get into their wives pants as they do the women they are chasing, we wouldn't have so many affairs. Husbands, chase your wife, date your wife, romance your wife and see what happens.
But, in saying that ladies, you have a role also. I love it when I hear women tell me, "my husband has no reason to ever be satisfied sexually somewhere else." WOW
2. Think about another woman or man. Fantasize about other women or man.
Refer back to number one instructions.
3. Prefer to have orgasms instead of God's blessings.
Yes I said it. I am so tired of pastors skirting around the subject of sex. And orgasms happen to play a large part in sex. As men of God, we must make the decision as to who we are trying to please; God or self.
4. Continually put your needs before those of your wife and children.
What I've come to find out through counseling and personal experience, when you begin meeting the needs of your family first, your needs will be met also. Men, as the leader of the home it is our job to meet the needs of our family, not the other way around.
5. Meeting with the opposite sex alone.
Under no circumstance should this ever happen. "We're just friends." Yeah Yeah Yeah Let me repeat myself, under no circumstances should we ever meet with someone of the opposite sex alone. You are doing nothing but opening a door that needs to remained shut and locked.
5 more tomorrow
If you have some suggestions on how to destroy a marriage, let me know.
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